Are you doing ALL the things—therapy, journaling, hot girl walks—but still spiraling when he doesn't text back? Still waiting for the other shoe to drop even when things are going well? Girl, you're not broken—you just need the right micro-habits to actually heal your anxious attachment from the inside out! 💕

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Why Your Current Healing Routine Isn't Working

Let me guess, gorgeous—you've been reading all the books, going to therapy, saving Instagram posts about anxious attachment, and STILL finding yourself in that familiar spiral of "why hasn't he texted me back?" 🙈

Here's the thing that took me YEARS to figure out: information without application is basically useless. You can know everything about anxious attachment, but if you're not implementing the right practices consistently, you'll stay stuck in the same patterns.

I've been in therapy since I was 16 (literally!), and while therapy gave me a great foundation, I was still regurgitating the DSM-5 without actually healing. I could list everything that happened to me but wasn't experiencing real transformation.

That's when I realized healing anxious attachment requires micro-habits—small, consistent actions that create lasting change over time. Think of it like this: you wouldn't expect to do 15 crunches and have a six-pack, right? Healing works the same way—it's cumulative! ✨

Micro-Habit #1: Honor Your Nervous System (Finally!)

Your nervous system is literally the foundation of everything, boo. If you're not paying attention to it, you'll keep getting hijacked by that flood of adrenaline every time he takes longer to respond.

I learned this the hard way when I went to the Philippines in 2015. I worked my butt off at high-energy events, then immediately went on a big international trip, came back, and jumped straight into my routine. I felt like absolute trash for weeks! 😮‍💨

Fast forward to my last big trip—I took a whole week off when I got back, prepped months ahead of time, and actually honored what my nervous system needed. The difference was night and day.

Your micro-habit: Take a walk outside every day. I know some of you are rolling your eyes (I was that girl too!), but hear me out. Being outside, having your feet on the ground, getting sun on your face—this literally helps regulate your nervous system. You can do this morning, noon, or night, and it will help reduce those jolts of "oh my gosh I need to talk to him RIGHT NOW."

Micro-Habit #2: Curate Your Social Media Like Your Life Depends on It

Who are you following, and what are they telling your brain about relationships? 👀

If you're following couples who look like Disney characters and never show the real side of relationships, your brain is getting the message that healthy relationships don't have conflicts, disagreements, or rough patches.

Plot twist: That's not reality, and it's setting you up for anxiety when your relationship doesn't look picture-perfect 24/7.

I've seen this in my Healing Girl Gang community—women limiting their online exposure and unfollowing accounts that don't support their healing journey. This is a micro-habit that can make a HUGE difference.

Your micro-habit: Go through who you follow RIGHT NOW and unfollow anyone who makes you feel worse about your relationship or yourself. (Yes, you can keep following me, but only if I'm actually helping you! 🤩)

Micro-Habit #3: Develop a Presence Practice (No Ashram Required!)

When I say "presence practice," I don't mean you need to go to India for six months. I mean creating observational awareness—the ability to observe your thoughts instead of being IN the spin cycle of them.

The first time I was introduced to meditation in 2015, I literally felt like my body was on fire. I wanted to crawl out of my skin! But over time, I've found presence practices that actually work for me.

Your micro-habit: Treat your morning coffee or tea like a ceremony. Watch the cream pour in, feel the warmth of the cup, be totally present with the sensations. That's it! Being completely present with what you're doing—even something as simple as making your morning drink—trains your brain to be in the moment instead of spiraling about your relationship. ☕️

When Micro-Habits Aren't Enough (Real Talk Time)

Now, if you're doing all these things and still feeling stuck, there's probably something deeper going on. Your body is a complicated system, and it's not just the physical habits you need to look at—it's what's happening in your mind and spirit too.

These micro-habits aren't magic pills. You won't make ceremonial matcha once and be cured of your anxiety (sorry, babe!). But when you look at healing as cumulative rather than transactional, these small actions absolutely add up.

Sometimes you need structure, support, and a process to get to the root of your patterns. That's where deeper work comes in—addressing the subconscious beliefs and emotional wounds that keep you stuck in anxious cycles.

The Real Question: Will It Ever Get Easier?

This was a question from someone in my community, and I want to be really transparent with you: I still have anxious attachment. 🙈

Do I overthink? Do I watch my husband put on his shoes and think "that was kind of angry"? Yes! But the difference is I now have tools to address and calm myself in those moments, and that didn't happen overnight.

Think of it like addiction—the conditions that created your anxious attachment don't just poof disappear. They're deeply woven into who you are. But with the right process and tools, you can absolutely change how you respond to triggers.

It WILL get easier with the right process. But just like baking a cookie, you need the right ingredients AND the right method. Having all the ingredients and dumping them in a bowl won't make a good cookie—you need to know how to put them together! 👑

Next Steps For The Anxious Girly

If you resonated with this episode (and I know you did, boo!), here are your next steps:

1. Start with one micro-habit today - pick the one that feels most doable and commit to it for just one week
2. Audit your social media follows - unfollow accounts that trigger comparison or unrealistic relationship expectations
3. Notice your nervous system patterns - pay attention to when you feel that adrenaline rush and what triggers it
4. Join the Healing Girl Gang for ongoing support and community with other women on the same journey

Remember, healing isn't linear. No effort is wasted! You're exactly where you need to be on your journey to becoming secure. And trust me when I say that the peace on the other side is SO worth it.

Key Moments in This Episode

• [0:28] Why doing "all the things" isn't enough to heal anxious attachment
• [3:48] Understanding your nervous system and why it matters for relationships
• [8:32] The social media audit that can change your relationship anxiety
• [11:04] How to develop a presence practice without going to an ashram
• [15:03] When micro-habits aren't enough and you need deeper work
• [16:52] Real talk about whether anxious attachment ever fully goes away
• [19:34] The process vs. transactional approach to healing

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Remember gorgeous, your healing journey is unique. Be gentle with yourself, and know that you're never alone in this process. The Healing Girl Gang has your back! 💫