Healing Anxious Attachment

For high-achieving women who crush it everywhere except love. Discover how to stop overthinking, trust your intuition, and build the secure relationship you've always wanted—without dimming your shine.

From Anxious to Secure: Real Client Results That'll Blow Your Mind

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Crying in the shower because he didn't text back? Spiraling when he goes on vacation? Feeling like your anxious brain is running the show? Hunny, meet Karuna—a neuroscience PhD who went from anxious wreck to secure queen, and I'm spilling ALL the tea on her transformation (with actual numbers to prove it)! 💕

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The Science Girl Who Couldn't Science Her Way Out of Relationship Anxiety

Y'all, when I tell you that Karuna is BRILLIANT—we're talking PhD in neuroscience, science writer, total high-achiever vibes—but none of that mattered when her anxious attachment hit. 🧠

Picture this: successful, educated woman who logically KNEW her partner Sean was amazing, but couldn't stop the visceral panic when he didn't respond to texts during Thanksgiving weekend. Sound familiar, gorgeous?

Karuna's story is proof that you can't think your way out of anxious attachment. Your nervous system doesn't care about your degrees or how smart you are—when those deep patterns get triggered, logic goes right out the window! 🙈

The Thanksgiving Breakdown That Changed Everything

Here's where it gets real. Karuna was six months into dating Sean (who sounds like an absolute gem, btw), and he went home for Thanksgiving. She knew his communication style—he takes time to respond, especially on vacation. She knew everything was fine between them.

But when she didn't hear from him for a day? Girl was SPIRALING. We're talking crying in the shower, convinced he was going to break up with her, having full panic attacks over literally nothing. ✨

The scariest part? She couldn't understand WHY. Her logical brain was like "everything is fine," but her nervous system was screaming "DANGER! ABANDONMENT! PANIC!"

This is exactly why overthinking in relationships feels so overwhelming—you're fighting against years of subconscious programming, bb.

Why Therapy Wasn't Enough (And Why Coaching Hit Different)

Now, I'm ALL about therapy (shoutout to therapists doing the lord's work! 👑), but here's what Karuna discovered: traditional therapy gave her awareness but not the practical tools to handle those moments of panic.

She'd process the anxiety in session, but when it bubbled up again, she was still stuck in the same spiral. Sound familiar?

This is where coaching comes in differently. Instead of just talking ABOUT the patterns, we caught them in real time. Between-session support meant she could text me mid-spiral and get immediate tools to work through it.

The difference? Information without application is just entertainment. Karuna didn't need more awareness—she needed practical strategies she could use when her nervous system was hijacked! 💕

The Numbers Don't Lie: Karuna's Actual Transformation Data

Okay bb, this is where it gets JUICY. I track actual data with all my clients because I'm a numbers girly and results matter. Here's Karuna's transformation by the numbers:

Confidence: From 4 to 7 = 75% increase 📈 Self-Trust/Mindset: From 4 to 7 = 75% increase Overthinking Management: From 3 to 7 = 133% increase

Y'all, imagine getting a 133% raise at work. That's life-changing money! But this is your LIFE we're talking about—your peace, your ability to enjoy your relationship, your mental freedom.

Before working together, Karuna would get "hangovers" from overthinking—spending 10 hours to do 2 hours of work because her brain was consumed with relationship anxiety. Now? Those hangovers are rare, and when spirals happen, she can exit them FAST.

The Real Tea: What Actually Creates Lasting Change

Here's what really shifted for Karuna (and this applies to ALL my anxious girlies):

Getting called out with love. I don't sugarcoat things, bb. When Karuna was micromanaging her relationship, I told her straight up. It stung because it was TRUE, but that's how we grow! 🤩

Learning the difference between triggered and right. Just because you FEEL something strongly doesn't mean it's accurate information. Your triggers are data about YOUR nervous system, not necessarily about your relationship.

Taking responsibility without blame. This isn't about Sean being wrong or Karuna being wrong—it's about two humans with their own histories learning to be in relationship together.

Building actual self-trust. Not just knowing what you need, but trusting yourself to handle whatever comes up.

From Overthinking to Receiving: Karuna's Mindset Shift

One of my favorite parts of Karuna's story? Learning to RECEIVE instead of always being the one pushing and forcing in her relationship.

Remember that jar of 100 date ideas Sean created for Valentine's Day? The candle-lit dinner where he cooked steak and scallops? Old Karuna would have been the one driving all the romance, worried that if she didn't DO enough, she'd lose his love.

New Karuna? She set up the candles, he handled the cooking, and they both surprised each other. She's learned that love isn't transactional—you don't have to EARN it by being perfect! 💕

This is the beautiful thing about healing anxious attachment—you stop operating from fear and start operating from love.

Next Steps For The Anxious Girly

If you resonated with this episode (and I know you did, boo!), here are your next steps:

Stop trying to logic your way out of nervous system responses and start learning nervous system regulation tools
Get curious about your patterns without judgment - notice when you're seeking love through "doing" instead of just being
Find support that gives you real-time tools not just weekly processing sessions
Start practicing receiving in small ways - let someone else plan the date, accept compliments without deflecting

Remember, healing isn't linear. No effort is wasted! You're exactly where you need to be on your journey to becoming secure. And trust me when I say that the peace on the other side is SO worth it.

Key Moments in This Episode

[2:10] Karuna introduces herself as a twin and science writer from India
[9:26] The Thanksgiving breakdown that made her realize she needed help
[11:42] When therapy gave awareness but not practical tools
[21:19] The actual numbers reveal - 75% confidence increase!
[26:04] How coaching accountability called out her BS patterns
[31:08] The confidence increases breakdown and what they actually mean
[36:50] Her advice to past self about investing in the work

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