Are you stuck in the cycle of overthinking every text, analyzing every interaction, and feeling like no amount of therapy can touch the deep anxiety you feel in relationships? What if I told you that 20+ years of traditional therapy couldn't do what the right approach accomplished in just months? Today I'm sharing Athena's incredible transformation story—and it's going to blow your mind! 💕

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The Reality Check: When High Achievers Hit the Relationship Wall

Let me paint you a picture, gorgeous. You're absolutely crushing it in every area of your life—multiple businesses, high-ranking education, competitive achievements—but when it comes to relationships? You're hitting wall after wall. 🙈

This was exactly Athena's story. She came to me as a successful entrepreneur with three different businesses, but her anxious attachment was literally taking over her life. We're talking 25 out of 10 on the anxiety scale, boo!

She described mornings where she'd set her alarm for 7:00 AM to hit the gym, but instead found herself hitting snooze for an hour and a half while staring at a blank wall, thinking of all the catastrophic scenarios that could happen in her relationship. Sound familiar?

The painful truth: Being successful everywhere else doesn't protect you from relationship anxiety. In fact, it can make it worse because you're used to being able to "fix" everything through achievement and effort.

The Debilitating Cycle of Overthinking and Analysis

Here's what was really happening in Athena's daily life before we worked together:

• Spending hours every day devoted to thinking through scenarios that had never even occurred
• Endless doom scrolling on Instagram and TikTok (thank God for the algorithm that led her to me! ✨)
• Stressing out friends with constant analysis and "what if" conversations
• Losing entire afternoons to overthinking instead of being productive in her business

Can you relate to this exhausting cycle? When relationship overthinking takes over, it doesn't just affect your love life—it steals your peace, your productivity, and your presence.

The breaking point: Athena reached a place where she was spending more time thinking about possible relationship scenarios than actually making progress in her life. That's when she knew something had to change.

Why 20+ Years of Therapy Wasn't Enough

Now let me be crystal clear—I absolutely believe in therapy and counseling. But here's what Athena discovered (and what so many of my clients have experienced): traditional therapy often treats the symptoms rather than getting to the subconscious root.

Athena had tried everything:

• Traditional talk therapy for over 20 years
• EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique)
• CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy)
• Different therapeutic approaches and techniques

The frustrating reality: She would leave therapy feeling maybe okay for an hour or a day, then right back to the same anxious patterns. The change was either non-existent or incredibly short-lived.

What was missing? Two crucial elements that most therapeutic approaches don't provide:

1. Someone who had walked the exact same path and could relate on a deep, personal level
2. The emotional safety to be completely vulnerable about the messy, embarrassing details of anxious attachment

As Athena put it so beautifully: "I was never able to fully say that out loud to anybody until we started working together." 💕

The Relationship Reality: When Good Guys Feel Unsafe

Here's the plot twist that so many of my high-achieving clients face: Athena was actually with a really wonderful, secure guy who was showing up consistently and lovingly. But her nervous system couldn't feel safe enough to receive it.

The pattern looked like this:

• Constant questioning: "Why isn't he doing this? What's going on?"
• Trying to change him instead of looking inward
• Being completely anxious and giving off totally bad vibes (her words!)
• Not even realizing what energy she was putting out there

Does this sound like you? When we're in anxious attachment mode, we can push away exactly what we're trying to pull closer.

The truth bomb: You can't control anything outside of yourself, but you ARE in charge of your own healing and transformation. 👑

The Subconscious Breakthrough: Getting to the Root

What made all the difference in Athena's transformation wasn't just surface-level coping strategies. We went deep into her subconscious to understand:

• Why she felt triggered when her partner needed space
• What was happening in her nervous system during relationship stress
• How to regulate herself instead of seeking external reassurance

The game-changing moment came when her partner went on a guys' trip. In the past, this would have been three to four days of absolute torture—couldn't think, couldn't sleep, spiraling about what might be happening.

But after our work together? Total peace. She actually sent him off with love and encouragement, and instead of his usual pattern of needing space and distance, he was calling her constantly, wanting to connect and share his experience! ✨

The magic: When you learn to hold yourself and create your own safety, others naturally feel safe to come closer.

The Practical Tools That Created Lasting Change

While I can't share all the specific subconscious work we did together (because everyone's makeup is beautifully unique), here are the foundational tools that Athena still uses daily:

The Micro Steps:

• Taking walks and getting fresh air
• Breathing exercises (I know it sounds simple, but it works!)
• Getting out of your room and turning lights on
• Drinking water and moving your body
• Putting yourself first instead of spiraling

The Deeper Work:

• Understanding your specific triggers and why they happen
• Breaking the pattern of overthinking before it takes over
• Learning to regulate your nervous system in real-time
• Holding yourself with compassion instead of criticism

The beautiful result? Athena recently faced a major business setback (losing a huge client) that would have completely devastated her 18 months ago. Instead? Pure powerhouse energy: "I can make this happen. There's nothing but opportunity out there for me."

From Anxious Mess to Secure Queen: The Transformation

Let me share Athena's exact words about her transformation, because they're going to give you chills:

"I just wanted to pop in and give a quick update... every time there's an altercation I hear your voice in my head. I listen, I breathe, and I regulate. I'm not lying at all—if it wasn't for you and our time together, I know I would have lost the love of my life to my overthinking and outbursts."

The ripple effects of healing anxious attachment go far beyond your romantic relationship:

• Increased confidence in business decisions
• Better boundaries with friends and family
• Ability to handle life stressors with grace
• Deep inner peace that doesn't depend on external circumstances

This is what's possible when you do the real work, gorgeous. Not just managing symptoms, but actually rewiring your nervous system for security and peace. 🤩

Next Steps For The Anxious Girly

If you resonated with Athena's story (and I know you did, boo!), here are your next steps:

1. Start with nervous system regulation daily - even 5 minutes of breathing or walking makes a difference in building your capacity for calm
2. Get curious about your subconscious patterns - notice when you're seeking reassurance versus creating your own safety
3. Find support from people who truly understand - whether that's joining the Healing Girl Gang or working with someone who's walked this path
4. Remember that you're worth the investment - as Athena said, you can find another relationship and be in the exact same place, or you can heal the root and show up as your best self

Remember, healing isn't linear. No effort is wasted! You're exactly where you need to be on your journey to becoming secure. And trust me when I say that the peace on the other side is SO worth it.

Key Moments in This Episode

• [0:00] Welcome to the first-ever guest episode with previous client Athena
• [4:36] The moment Athena knew she needed a change - anxiety levels at 25 out of 10
• [11:23] Why 20+ years of therapy didn't touch the root of her anxiety
• [15:46] The power of emotional safety and vulnerability in healing
• [25:00] Moving from overthinking to self-regulation in real-time
• [30:25] The transformation during her partner's guys' trip
• [42:33] Athena's story of overcoming a major career setback with confidence

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Remember gorgeous, your healing journey is unique. Be gentle with yourself, and know that you're never alone in this process. The Healing Girl Gang has your back! 💫