Self-Soothing Techniques That Actually Work (Day 5 Challenge)
Aug 22, 2025Feeling constantly on edge? Stuck in fight-or-flight mode even when life seems fine? Girl, your nervous system is crying out for some serious TLC—and I'm here to teach you the self-soothing techniques that actually work! ๐
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Why Celebrating Small Wins Is Your Secret Self-Soothing Weapon
Hey gorgeous! ๐๐ฝ Welcome to day five of our seven-day self-soothing challenge, and honestly, I am SO proud of you for showing up the way that you can. It takes somebody of real character to challenge themselves and keep going, and you're doing exactly that!
If you haven't had a chance to comment and celebrate your wins, please do that right now! Our ability to celebrate the small wins is the essence of being able to self-soothe. Whether you've noticed feeling more calm, less stressed, or just slightly more centered—celebrate it ALL! ๐
This isn't just feel-good fluff, boo. When we acknowledge our progress, we're literally rewiring our brain to notice safety and success instead of constantly scanning for threats. Your anxious brain NEEDS this positive reinforcement to start feeling secure.
The Truth About Why You Feel Constantly Anxious (It's Not Your Fault)
Here's the real tea about why you might be feeling constantly anxious, stressed, or on edge: you might be living in chronically unsafe environments or relationships. Hello, 2020 and everything that followed! ๐ฎ๐จ
When we're in that dysregulated state, our parasympathetic system (our calm, rest-and-digest mode) gets weaker while our sympathetic system (fight-or-flight) gets stronger. It's literally like working out only your right arm—that arm gets jacked while your left arm gets weak!
The same thing happens with our nervous system. When our sympathetic system gets activated over and over, it becomes our default mode. We have to intentionally put time, attention, and focus on strengthening our parasympathetic system so we can actually calm down, relax, and release that tension we're carrying.
Why Meditation Alone Isn't Enough (And What You Actually Need)
Don't get me wrong—meditation is AMAZING and so foundational for healing. But sometimes we need more than that, gorgeous! Think of meditation like ibuprofen. Ibuprofen is great for a headache, but if I have high blood pressure, ibuprofen ain't gonna cut it! ๐
I need to change my diet, exercise differently, maybe take medication, or try different protocols to heal high blood pressure. It's the same thing with your parasympathetic nervous system. To truly get out of fight-or-flight mode, you need:
- An arsenal of different tools and techniques
- The skill and support to break old habits
- Consistent practice over 30-60 days (that's how long it takes to rewire patterns!)
- Structure and guidance to stay accountable
This is exactly why I created my High Vibe Healing Reset program—because healing your nervous system requires both the tools AND the habit change support.
The Michael Jordan Method: Visualization for Self-Soothing
Today's exercise is all about visualization, and I'm about to blow your mind with why this works so well for calming your nervous system! โจ
Michael Jordan wasn't great just because of his physical skills. Before he ever stepped onto the court, he could SEE and visualize the ball going into the hoop. He could feel it in his mind through visualization, and that's part of what made him legendary.
If the greatest athletes can use visualization to perform at their peak, we can absolutely use it to calm our nervous system and create the feelings we want! Here's how:
- Turn on ALL five senses in your visualization
- See, feel, hear, smell everything in vivid detail
- Start to correlate your feeling sense with what you see in your mind
- Practice visualizing how you want things to look AND feel
Breaking the Habit: Why You Need More Than Just Tools
Here's something most people don't realize about healing: you need two things to truly change your patterns. First, you need that arsenal of tools I mentioned. But second (and this is the part most people miss), you need the skill and support to break the habit.
We often need structure and accountability because changing our nervous system patterns isn't just about knowing what to do—it's about actually doing it consistently for long enough that it becomes your new normal. That's why healing programs are typically 30-60 days minimum. Real change takes time! โฐ
Think about it: how many techniques have you learned that you tried once or twice and then forgot about? Having support and structure helps you stick with the practices until they become second nature.
Your Daily Visualization Practice (Let's Get Started!)
Ready to try today's visualization exercise? I want you to turn on your senses and allow yourself to see, feel, hear, and smell all the things. Put yourself in a state where you're visualizing how you want to be.
This isn't just daydreaming, gorgeous—this is actively training your nervous system to recognize safety and calm. When you can feel what you need and correlate your feeling sense with what you see in your mind, you're literally rewiring your anxious attachment patterns! ๐ง
Start small. Maybe visualize yourself feeling calm during a typically stressful situation, or imagine yourself responding to relationship triggers with confidence instead of anxiety.
Next Steps For The Anxious Girly
If you're resonating with this challenge (and I know you are, boo!), here are your next steps:
- Practice your visualization exercise daily - even 5 minutes makes a difference in regulating your nervous system
- Celebrate every small win - notice when you feel even slightly more calm and acknowledge it out loud
- Build your toolkit beyond meditation - try different self-soothing techniques to see what works for your unique nervous system
- Consider getting structured support - whether it's my High Vibe Healing Reset or another program, having guidance makes all the difference
Remember, healing isn't linear. No effort is wasted! You're exactly where you need to be on your journey to becoming more regulated and secure. And trust me when I say that the peace on the other side is SO worth it.
Key Moments in This Episode
- [0:00] Welcome to day 5 and celebrating your commitment to showing up
- [0:24] Why celebrating small wins is essential for self-soothing
- [0:45] Exciting announcement about the High Vibe Healing Reset program
- [1:19] Understanding chronic stress and dysregulated nervous systems
- [2:13] Why you need multiple tools beyond just meditation
- [4:06] How to break habits with structure and support over 30-60 days
- [5:24] Today's visualization exercise using all five senses
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Remember gorgeous, your healing journey is unique. Be gentle with yourself, and know that you're never alone in this process. The Healing Girl Gang has your back! ๐ซ
